When our doctor confirms that our pregnancy is at risk, there are many daily activities that take it for their cold. What do we have the right to do in these cases?
High-risk pregnancies are so called because they can have serious consequences for the mother and her child. When a doctor advises you to rest and take proper precautions, it's usually to avoid miscarriages and complications. But what are the steps to take and how can we continue to take care of our family when there is nothing more we can do?
Pregnancies at risk are not all for the same reasons. If you are followed because of risk of preeclampsia, diabetes or multiple pregnancy, your doctor will not necessarily recommend staying in bed during your pregnancy. In these cases, precautions will be more diet-specific and consist of more frequent visits to your doctor's office.
In other cases, however, if you have a medical history that puts your pregnancy at risk, if you have had aearly start of labor or if you have a placental abruption, for example, you will have to spare yourself at all costs. If your doctor prescribes a work stoppage and rest, you will have to listen to him and reorganize all family tasks accordingly.
Do not force
Theoretically, it's not that hard not to push too hard. We tell ourselves that to move the big furniture, we can ask for help and that the rest can wait, but that does not help us on a daily basis because pregnant or not, we will still have to carry the grocery bags, lift stroller and put it in the car, take your older child who doesn't understand that you can't take him as before… Since you can't compromise - your he alth and that of your baby depend on it - you will have to find someone else to do these tasks for you.
When you can use delivery services, do so. Several grocery stores and pharmacies offer this type of service and it will be part of the problem solved for single mothers and one less task for dads who will suddenly have a lot more to do. As for lifting things occasionally, you will have to wait until your spouse is present, rely on the presence of a good Samaritan or reduce outings.
No longer able to take your child until delivery
One of the hardest parts of high risk pregnancies is not being able to take your other children. As if we didn't feel guilty enough already being a mom, now we can't even pick up our children from daycare. You can sit next to them, stroke their hair, play with figurines and talk to them about their day, sure, but not being able to pick them up when they're sad or taking to hug them very tight in our arms is very trying for moms. This is especially true when their child is very young and it's dad who gets all the hugs while mom watches helplessly.
So you don't have to worry about what your child thinks, talk to them. Even if he is very young, these conversations will do him good. You can explain what is going on in your belly with children's words and tell him that in a few weeks you will finally be able to take it as before. You can even keep a calendar where you can mark off the days leading up to your due date so he can see that your loss of mobility is over. Of course, there will be times that are more difficult than others, but by lying down with your child to read and cuddle a little, you will manage to feel less guilty and satisfy his need for cuddles.
Another difficult aspect of this situation is all the stress it causes. The fear of disturbing others, of not doing enough anymore, of being away from your children and of putting too much pressure on your spouse is verytrying for the probably tired and hormonal woman that you are. If you're feeling anxious and can move around a bit, look into prenatal yoga. If not, talk to your doctor about natural ways that might help you relax.
While you're at it, also ask her what signs should alert you so that you don't worry unduly throughout the pregnancy. Do you have to worry about stomach pain, swollen legs, bleeding, urinary pain, headache, loss of vision or something else? By knowing what to watch out for, you won't be constantly on the lookout for trouble and you'll be less stressed about it.
Some ideas to pass the time during a high-risk pregnancy
Since you won't be able to do much, you might as well keep busy! What to do when you are pregnant and you can not move as much as you would like? Here are some ideas for you:
In the living room
Moms who are completely rested often suggest moving to the living room. You will have access to it on TV and you will feel more in the middle of the action than if you are in your bed. For those who will have to stay in bed for several weeks, this is ideal.
Knitting, embroidery, crocheting, friendship bracelets and other time-consuming activities will come in handy during this long free time.
Writing your story
Since you have a lot of time, you can also use it to write. Write how you feel, start a blog, tell stories of sci-fi, horror or love, and use your moments of inspiration to unleash your inner author.
Almost all working-age adults complain that they never have time to read again. Here's your chance to make up for lost time!
These days, there are so many good TV series that we don't have time to follow them all. Throw yourself into horror stories, mysteries, romance stories and even very cheesy afternoon shows while you have no one to judge you and absolutely nothing to do. It's time to subscribe to Netflix, CraveTV, Super Ecran, etc. The expense will pay off!
Acrylic paint is non-toxic and will help you pass the time when you no longer know which saint to devote to. If you have no inspiration, you can even do paint by numbers. This is a very easy activity that will keep you busy for a while.
Crosswords, Candy Crush, Trivia Quest and other games that normally eat up all your time don't have to make you feel bad when you have so much time at your fingertips. In addition, these games will change your mind and reduce your stress.
Talking on the phone
This may also be a good time tocatch up on all the phone conversations you haven't had since you started working. Call your aunts, your mother, your old friends and take the opportunity to reconnect with anyone you've neglected lately.
Subscribe to mom forums
Moms' forums (like Momforlife) are a great help in finding ideas for activities and a lot of comfort when you are going through difficult times at home. Take the opportunity to register, it's free and you will find new friends to confide in.