2023 Author: Anita Thornton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-05-22 03:30
Around their second birthday, some children turn into real little monsters. Here are some tips to stop getting angry and help him change his behavior.
When he has a fit, stay calm
As a parent, you must first learn to breathe through your nose because at this age, some children really have a gift for touching sensitive chords. When everything was going better and we finally felt in control in our role as parents, here they are, stubborn us, throwing tantrums and putting a spoke in our wheels. Despite this, we must never forget that we are adults in front of a child who simply does not have the means to put an end to his frustrations. Our role is to remain calm, even if it is often difficult, so that he sees the excess of his anger.
Find a solution or change the subject
To defuse a crisis, try changing the subject or suggesting solutions. If it's a toy that doesn't do what he wants, for example, show him how to use it properly. If it is rather because of one of your decisions that does not suit him, change his mind. Quickly offer to do something else and avoid persisting for a long time or explaining too much to him; you would give him the impression that there is a possibility that you might change your mind and he wouldn't give up, until you were at his wit's end.
Bypass the famous “no”
A child of this age often answers no because it amuses him to see that this possibility exists and that he can use it too. He won't be able to confront you so much if you give him a choice between two options. For example, instead of asking him if he wants to eat broccoli, you can ask him if he will eat broccoli with butter or without butter. Have you ever played neither yes nor no? It's the same!
Give him positive attention
Often, the terrible two comes out when a child has difficulty expressing himself. For some, that translates into demands for attention. The reflex of parents is often to follow the old advice of “ignore it, otherwise you will encourage it”. It's counterproductive. If you ignore him, you add to his many frustrations and it's a bit like taking revenge. This is nothing to calm your child down. Instead, take an interest in what he does and help him accomplish what gives him a hard time. In exchange, he may accept your decisions more easily.
All the cries, the S. O. S
A child in the middle of a terrible two cries toolot. Sometimes it's for venting anger, sometimes it's for extra energy, and sometimes it's for the pleasure of hearing the sound of your own voice (especially while you're talking on the phone). In the end, it gives a lot of cries in a day! When he is calm and ready to play, do vocal exercises with your child. Take turns shouting loudly, then whisper. Together, you can then explore the best volume for talking to others on a daily basis.
A lot of hugs
Children at this age need a lot of affection between their big exploration activities around the house. For your child to be calm and pleasant, remember to take him in your arms often. Assured of your love, he will be more inclined to gentleness and kindness.
Aggression is unacceptable
If you can be patient and gentle when your child screams, cries and shows despair, aggression cannot go unpunished. Your child should understand that hitting, kicking, biting, pulling hair and throwing objects will not be tolerated. When your child becomes aggressive, ask him to sit quietly for a few minutes explaining clearly why he is being punished.
In public
When our child throws a tantrum in public, it adds shame to our parenting stress and we don't always know how to react. When you arefaced with what is commonly known as a mall crisis, take your child away to an isolated place until he calms down. To prevent this from happening again, never give in to his demands when he is in this state. If these crises always end in failure, they will not happen often.
Come to your senses
If despite all these methods you can't calm him down and the tension rises, don't hesitate to take a step back. Your anger will only make things worse. Go to the bathroom for a few minutes, put on some music or entrust your child to your spouse. By taking a step back, you may find the words that will calm him down and avoid saying things that are beyond your thinking and that would be very misinterpreted by a young child who doesn't 'has obviously not yet understood the limits of assertiveness.
The terrible what?!?
Now that you've read everything, if you don't recognize yourself and you feel like your child is an angel, it may be because his temper won't lead him to tantrums. large-scale opposition. Good for you! Remember to talk to him about the difficulties he encounters. It's sometimes a frustrating age for shy and perpetually happy kids too!
