Your child fills you with happiness, but you miss all the little attentions and feel baby move? Did you have to go through a little mourning after your pregnancy?
The feeling of emptiness
Some women are surprised to find that after giving birth, they experience the shock of having lost their beautiful round belly overnight and realize that they will no longer feel their little treasure moving inside them. When in addition the entourage is obsessed with the new little baby and no longer cares about the mother, we tend to feel a little lost and ashamed of what we feel since we are convinced that we should rather swim in the happiness of finally being able to hold our newborn in our arms.
Don't be too hard on yourself and try not to feel guilty. It's normal to feel a little unbalanced after childbirth and you have the right to have contradictory emotions attached to this event that has turned your life upside down. The best thing you can do to move forward positively is to accept that you have to grieve and give yourself time to tame this new life that you haveso desired. Life is good and before long you will be so fulfilled that these emotions will eventually fade over time as these moms testify:
“What I missed the most was feeling the baby moving inside me. It's such an exceptional feeling. And losing the habit of flattering my belly was also hard. We end up moving on to something else, telling ourselves that it's a new stage, that the baby is there for real, it's even better. And that we will relive that in another pregnancy. – Jessica
“Wow…I'm really into it lately! I just finished my last pregnancy, I savor every moment as much as possible with my baby who is 7 weeks old now. My heart would have endless room for other children, but my life would not… You have to make the difference between the 2 and move on” – Patricia
“For my part, I had a lot of trouble not having a belly anymore… Seeing the others with their beautiful big belly hurt me… especially a few days before they gave birth… I needed at least two months before everything returns to normal. It may sound exaggerated, but mothers of premature babies will understand me… when you lose your belly at 29 weeks of pregnancy, you have to grieve and worry about your baby at the same time! – Jessica
“I wouldn't go so far as to say that I had to grieve, but the first few days after giving birth, I felt empty. My son who had been constantly withme for 9 months now seemed so far away from me in his father's arms. But as the days passed, the more my new bond with him grew and it soon passed. I would say that it is more a period of adaptation than a mourning”. – Julie
“I miss my belly too. When I see pregnant women, I find them lovely and I can't wait to relive this magical experience. Even if the pregnancy was not always easy, I loved carrying my baby, feeling it move and experiencing this very special bond. I also loved giving birth. These are beautiful moments to relive in my head as I breastfeed and watch him… he is so beautiful! – Anne-Marie
“After the birth of my daughter, I couldn't imagine that I wouldn't experience THIS a second time… even if my spouse only wanted a child… I managed to change his mind, and we had a baby boy! Mourning, I did it every day, because I knew that I would never experience pregnancy again, the sensations of carrying a baby and I take advantage of each day of his early childhood, because, that too, I will not experience it anymore! - Lyne
“After my first pregnancy, what shocked me the most was that I no longer existed! As much as everyone asked me how I was doing, patted my belly… There, nothing. How is the baby? Does he drink well? He is gaining weight? Yes Yes Yes! But the mother, she, you do not want to know how she is? Not easy childbirth, there! WhenI had a visit from my sister at the hospital, it helped me, she had just given birth 6 months earlier and the first question she asked me was “how are you?”. Damn I love my sister! – Sylvie
Tips to help you get through this time
A belly cast
In addition to giving you the opportunity to keep them as souvenirs and flatter them as you please, as testified by Anouk Richard, mother three times: "I had three pregnancies… I'm lucky to having had the casts of my last two pregnancies made by Moulage De Bedaine Bedondaine. I still flatter my bellies by going through my daughters' room… it helps to be less nostalgic. you can even ask your friends and family to write little words of love and support that you can read to encourage you when you spin a bad cotton.
Pictures, pictures, more pictures
Transform yourself into a real top model during your pregnancy. Capture every moment to remember the evolution of your beautiful belly! I advise you to discover our pregnancy diary which will allow you to add the photos you have taken as well as to add comments on everything you experience throughout your pregnancy.. You will be able to keep an electronic copy that you can consult at any time quickly!
Honesty is your best weapon
You can try to explain to yourentourage that even if you understand and share the ecstasy they feel for your child, you feel a little sidelined and that it hurts you. There is always a way to express your emotions without offending your interlocutor. Remember that they certainly don't want to upset you and probably don't realize that you are affected.
Knowing how to lean on your partner
Talk to your spouse to explain what you are going through inside. He could perhaps help you put things into perspective by talking to you or even help you refocus by letting you take time for yourself or by offering you little things like a massage or a romantic dinner.while baby sleeps.
Carrying and skin-to-skin
Our members are unanimous, what they miss the most is this unparalleled feeling of our little baby moving in our belly. When I was bored of feeling my baby, I put my newborn on my belly, skin to skin and let her snuggle up to me. His heartbeats and his movements during his sleep reassured me and helped me a lot to feel serene.
