2023 Author: Anita Thornton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-07-31 02:08
It's hard for parents to get the right attitude right away. Here are the best tips for raising your kids without losing your temper or composure.
Well-mannered or polite?
A well-behaved child trusts himself and others, including his parents. He respects the established limits and he knows that they are beneficial to him. He feels safe, his environment is trivialized, his emotional landmarks identified, in short, he has built himself in complete autonomy. The polite child is wise and docile, but can rebel at any time and question a way of life that has been imposed on him without his knowing why. Be careful, if he rebels you will not have gained anything in terms of his autonomy: raising is not training.
How to deal with difficult situations?
Between 18 months and 3 years, the child experiences a period of opposition: he says no, opposes the rules, shouts and does stupid things. In fact, he tests the reality and the authority represented by his parents or the people who take care of him. It is precisely at these times that it is necessary to establish rules of life, being very attentive that he understands them and only applies them for the time to please you, at the time.
If you enter the battleby reigning terror, threat, violence, you will obtain short-term results, based on fear and not on understanding. To do this, you must be firm and flexible at the same time, also using your child's humor and intelligence. Because he can show you all his intelligence if you consider him as an adult in the making and not as a little one who needs to be trained.
Why is it so hard to raise a child?
When the child is born, all parents want to please him and imagine peaceful relationships. It's possible for a while, but even a very small baby has its own drinking, sucking, eating, sleeping requirements that don't necessarily fit your own schedule. So, we compose and compromises appear so that harmony reigns. But very quickly, you have to impose rules, limits not to be exceeded, because otherwise it's anarchy. This may be the law of the child, but for it to grow, it must meet rejections, frustrations that make you feel like the “bad” mom or the “bad” dad…
Above all, don't confuse being fair and rigorous with unfair and authoritarian. Your child will unconsciously recognize that your refusal should help him grow and not frustrate him for anything and everything: it's up to you to assess what is possible and what is impossible. He will thank you later.
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