2023 Author: Anita Thornton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-07-31 02:08
Usually I write articles in which I pay attention to my father image. I don't want to give the impression that I find it difficult. I don't want to show that I possibly have a weakness as a father.
I'm also careful with my words, I "get stuck in the flowers of the carpet" in order to be sure not to hurt anyone. Usually, I leave the strong and slightly more controversial opinions to Jean-Félix, the co-author of this blog.
But not today.
I really just want to be true. The truth is, having kids is tough. Having to say goodbye to activities without having to think about little men (or good women). Your life becomes monopolized, in a way. Everything you say, do or even think will affect your relationship with your children.
The judgment of others
You can't really take leave of this role. Yes, you can have the children looked after, but the fact remains that you only think of them when they are gone. But the worst is also the gaze of others. This is precisely the reason why I am always careful how I write about thisblog. I'm so scared of being told I'm a bad parent.
On social media, I spend my time reading comments from people without children who judge parents and their ability to raise their children. Without really knowing what it is. Let's make a correlation: you, at your work, do you never make mistakes? That's it. Parents do too.
The worst part, however, is parents judging other parents. Serious. You have some. You know how difficult it is. Even those who say that everything is beautiful and pink, and that all they post on Instagram are beautiful smiles. I know it, I know it. I know some who admitted to me, after a few drinks, that they sometimes "fuck you" behind their children's backs. All parents find it difficult. Because it is!
So instead of criticizing, show solidarity!
That's it. Having children is difficult. We no longer sleep as much as we would like. We have to think about food for everyone. We have to pay more, because we need a bigger house, more clothes, more food, etc. It's hard.
But damn I wouldn't change that.
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