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Of course, there is the child: the one who fills Dad's heart with joy, day after day. But besides that? We asked eight dads to share with us what fatherhood has taught them about themselves.
Self-mockery
“I don't think I have changed much with the arrival of my children. I think I'm a little more nono. I like to tell myself that my children will also have a model that shows them self-mockery, mockery, irony. These aren't things that many people show their children, or other people's children, but I believe they are essential tools to get through life. »
- Stephen
The sense of responsibility
“My life has changed a lot since I had my daughter. I would say that I put aside my bohemian life, to give it a good foundation. I developed a sense of responsibility, and a sensitivity that I had never known myself. The paternal instinct makes people do ridiculous things! I love making lemonade stands! And I feel much more proud to see her do a choir show than to do a show myself! »
- Yan
Overtaking
“Before him, I had dreams. And even ifI had a lot of time to make them, I always put everything off until the next day. Maybe I had too much time, too… But that has changed. Because when the baby arrived, free time disappeared. However, I have never been so productive as today! I seize every moment to realize myself. I want my son to be proud of his father. »
- Maxim
Unconditional love
“I don't feel like I've developed a new talent or changed that much since my daughter was born. I always wanted to have one or more children, but I must admit that before, I was not super comfortable with babies. Not because they are fragile or because the tasks related to their well-being put me off. No: it's just that I didn't think I could develop affinities with a being who doesn't speak, only expresses himself with his eyes and his cries, and doesn't have well-developed motor skills. The bond that unites us, her and me: that's what surprises me! »
- John Sebastian
Anguish
“I have never been nervous or anxious by nature. But when I told my father that I was going to become one myself, he said to me, in all seriousness: “From now on, you will never have peace of mind again.” At the time, I didn't really understand. But when my daughter arrived, it hit me, and I've been worried ever since. All the time. It is not sickly, it is not unlivable. It's just always there. I need to know it correct. »
- Luke
Authority
“Fatherhood allowed me to develop a new talent: having authority! No joke, it's certainly not the most fun talent in the gang, but the power of my big male voice - compared to that of my blonde -, it still surprises me after 6 years! »
- Alexander
Listening
“Without being focused on my little person, I think that before I was not as attentive to others as today. Of course, I try to listen to my children, since they were very young. But I think that, in general, I am also more attentive to the needs of the people around me. Anyway, I try! »
- Fred
Strength
“It is not always easy. When my ex and I broke up, it was downright hell. But I knew I had to be strong for him. It's been two years and it's still difficult at times. But I stay strong. I learned to compromise. At first, I felt like I was pissing myself off, that I didn't respect myself. But, in the end, I realized that I was doing it for him. Basically, he is what makes me strong. »
- William
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