2023 Author: Anita Thornton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-05-22 03:30
You've been dreaming about it for weeks and your oldest would like to have a little brother, but it's such a big decision to make! Should you have another child?
Many mothers wonder if they should have another child. Some would like to give their only child a little brother or sister, others have always dreamed of having a large family. However, many mothers wonder if they are ready to start this great adventure again. This is a question that we refuse to take lightly, and with good reason. Here are a few things to think about, inspired by valuable advice from mums at Mamanpourlavie.com.
Every child changes everything
You already know that a baby brings its share of joys and responsibilities, but did you know that each new child completely changes the family dynamic? Of course, each child is different and their personality brings a new dimension to your family, but their arrival also multiplies the interactions between each individual. The children will have new play partners and thus give you much more time to go about your business. On the other hand, the need for attention will be doubled andnew rivalries will take shape. Each child will grow up and each of these people will change your life in their own way. A new child will therefore ask you for a new adaptation, but will give another color to your family.
Grieving
For some, it is the idea of never being pregnant again that creates a huge void. There are even women who love being pregnant so much that they become surrogates. However, and even if it is difficult to mourn your big belly, the love of pregnancy is not a sufficient reason to get pregnant. You really have to want to take care of the child that will be the result of this pregnancy. You also have to think that beyond his belly, there is a dad who has his say and a child who will need as much love and stability as his brothers and sisters.
He alth and age
Many other factors come into play. Among these, age seems to be the most worrying for mothers-to-be who fear that possible illness and fatigue will impact the quality of life of their unborn child. However, for many years, the average age for starting a family has been increasing. Indeed, the average age of childbearing reached 30 in 2011 according to l'Institut de la statistique du Québec and families are not doing any worse for it. However, it is good to know that the more the years pass, the more it is difficult to get pregnant and the more the risks ofcomplication increase. If your he alth is failing, it would also be wise to meet with your doctor before making your decision.
Your Guts
One of the most common tips from mothers is to follow your instincts. If it is true that certain variables such as your he alth, the state of your couple and your financial capacities must influence your choice, the fact remains that the final decision will have to be made with your heart.
Don't have a child because you only have girls and now want a boy. Don't have a child lest an only child be lonely, he won't be. Don't have a child because you're afraid you'll never be pregnant again. Have a child instead because you still have love and energy to give them and because you want to add a member to this familywhich already brings you so much joy.
