2023 Author: Anita Thornton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-05-22 03:30
If your baby doesn't want to be anywhere but in your arms, we have some tips to help!
There are those babies who don't want to be put down. Colorful blankets, activity mats, toys… nothing makes them change their minds! They will cry until they are in your arms. Other people's arms don't do either, they want mom's arms and nothing else! Here are some hypotheses and solutions to explain this behavior and help you do what you need to do anyway.
Anguish or curiosity?
Around the eighth month, babies go through separation anxiety. This is a normal phase during which babies are afraid of losing their mother. At this time, babies cry as soon as they no longer see her or when they come into contact with strangers. It is therefore normal at this age that you have difficulty getting rid of your role as a kangaroo mother.
On the other hand, if your baby wants to be in your arms at another time, it may be a matter of perspective. Newborns see at a very short distance and may want to see their mothers' faces all the time, while older babies tend to want to broaden their horizons and see something other than adult legs thatwalk. Understandable!
A baby well down in his stroller or sitting on his mat does not have the best view and is often forgotten from our height. He doesn't see the mascot his sister sees in the distance, and he doesn't understand where the music playing is coming from. If your child is slightly curious, he wants to see everything and know everything and that's normal. It's even a good sign to have a wide awake baby!
Your poor arms! Your poor back
For all the joy that having an alert and inquisitive baby gives you, chances are you need to free your hands from time to time. Also, if your baby is slightly heavy, your arms and back will soon hurt. Between a baby crying because you're doing the dishes and body aches, you probably don't know what to do.
To come out of this period unscathed, the best solution remains the baby carrier. The principle is the same for all baby carriers and whether you choose a sling, a belly bag or a back carrier, you will have hands free, better posture and a baby satisfied. In some cases, a slightly sullen baby's behavior might even change completely as soon as he sees what is going on everywhere.
If the damage is already done and your back is in a mess, quickly call a massage therapist who will relax your muscles and help you get through this demanding period with a smile. Sometimes the pain is more chronic and see a chiropractoris needed to replace everything.
Did I spoil it?
Have you ever heard that you shouldn't take a baby too much if you don't want to spoil it and end up having it in your arms all the time? Know that this is a myth. Not only will you not spoil him, but you will reassure him by not pushing him away. Babies need their parents and they build their confidence and self-confidence by being in contact with their mother and father.
These periods never last very long and soon your little one's need for autonomy will take over. Moreover, as soon as it works, you will have difficulty having a kiss between two races from the living room to the kitchen. And if you still think you will have to take it forever, tell yourself that you have never seen a ten-year-old child who refused to be put down by his parents.
