Sibling Conflicts

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Sibling Conflicts
Sibling Conflicts
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The brothers and sisters; as much as they can support and defend each other, so much can they quarrel over small matters. How to intervene during conflicts within siblings?

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First of all, you should know that bickering between brothers and sisters is completely normal! The siblings is part of the intimacy of children, just like their parents. They live together, see each other in moments of great joy and great vulnerability. As all children have their own temperament and personality, it is inevitable that some irritants will arise.

The quality of a relationship is not measured by the number of conflicts, but by the ability to reconcile. However, it goes without saying that hurtful words, even once excused and forgiven, can remain in the memory.

Activity idea

To illustrate the effect of our children's petty words towards their siblings, a small impact technique can be very helpful: crumple a drawing or a kind word that your child has given you expressly for this activity. Then, try to unfold it to put it back exactly as it was at the start. The finding? It's impossible. Yes we can alwayssee the drawing or the message but there are still creases in the sheet. Thus, we have just shown our children that words also leave traces in the other.

The good news? Kind words also remain.

Several triggers can be at the origin of a sibling conflict: envy, jealousy, rivalry, the feeling of injustice, a game that does not don't go as they would have liked, the desire to be alone for one and to be together for the other, etc.

Areas of intervention

Intervene? Let them solve their problem alone? How about a bit of both?

First, we can present to our children, when they are calm and willing, the steps of conflict management which are the following:

1. Calm down

2. Speaking calmly

3. Listen to the other

4. Find possible solutions to solve the problem

5. Apply the chosen solution and see if it works

6. Reconcile

You can even practice them through scenarios. Afterwards, when they experience a conflict and come to tell you about it, you can remind them of the stages (whether verbally, in writing or via images) of conflict management and accompany them to apply them.

Over time, you will not have to be so present in the management of fraternal bickering since they will be able to apply the steps on their own. And at that moment, if harmony has still not returned,they can come to you for your support.

The sibling comparison

Comparison is very common between siblings. It's that very often, whether we like it or not, we compare our children on several aspects: their sports skills, their honesty, their autonomy, their academic results, their listening to instructions and so on. It's no wonder that children then use his comparisons to their advantage…or to the disadvantage of the other.

Let's try instead to compare the children to themselves to put all the chances on their side to esteem themselves, to be proud of them and to avoid comparing themselves to others.

The good sides too

Having a sibling has many benefits! Children from siblings learn earlier to share, to compromise, to develop their empathy, to assert themselves, to manage conflicts (hey!), to accept instructions, to give instructions, lark. All of these skills are part of children's social development.

Also, having a sibling is a source of comfort, protection and complicity.

Let our children quarrel so that they can manage their differences independently by having first guided them through the intricacies of social relationships. Because relationships with others are not always easy!

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