With the screaming and crying, it's not always easy to leave baby at daycare in the morning. Our poor mother's heart then swells with sadness! Here are a few things that might make this moment less painful.
Bring something from home
A stuffed animal that he likes, one of your scarves, or a toy to which he is particularly attached could accompany him if the daycare allows it. A little something familiar, which may even be impregnated with your scent, will allow him to remember that you are not so far away, despite your absence. In addition, this transitional object will help him feel secure during naptime.
Leave it fast
Yes, sometimes it is difficult. Yes, it breaks our mommy heart every time. And besides, the first mornings, whatever we can advise you, you will experience the crisis of tears for long minutes before you realize that you are still late and that you have to find solutions… But experienced mothers will tell you: if you let baby go sooner, his crisis will last less. Moreover, ask his educator: there ischances are good that once he loses sight of you, your little love's tears will disappear immediately. Dropping him off quickly, giving him a big hug, telling him that you are coming back in the afternoon to take him home and leaving immediately without waiting will avoid giving him time to hold you back. You have to make him feel confident, and your attitude plays a big part in that equation.
Do not spy
Once you have dropped off your child at daycare, do not retrace your steps to make sure everything is in order: trust the educator. If your child sees you, the tantrum will start all over again and it may be even harder to calm him down than the first time. If there is a problem, her teacher will let you know, don't worry.
Request follow-up
No educator likes to be observed, but if you call, most will be happy to update you on the state of your little love during the day. Of course, don't call excessively: they have a job to do, but no one will blame you for checking in on your break, in the morning, or at dinner time.
Establish a Leaving Ritual
The routine comforts children and gives them confidence: just think about the importance of the bedtime routine ! So use this trick in the mornings too, and set up a departure ritual: a kiss, a big hug and a “See you this evening, my love!” I love you ! » With the children a little moreold man, we can also recite a little nursery rhyme which then becomes a ritual between the two of you.
Pick up the child at the same time
Little by little, your child will be able to find his bearings in time and knowing that you are arriving an hour after such an activity or after a nap, for example, will make him feel secure.
Getting them used to living with their parents' unavailability
At home, get your child used to experiencing times when you are not fully available. Let him play alone and ask him to wait a bit before responding to his requests. For example, when his father is also present, take a bath, and close the bathroom door. It will not only do you good (a moment for you!), it will help him develop his independence.
Sign him up for activities
It might be a good idea to enroll him in a group activity where he can be around other children and have to follow the rules. At the beginning, you will be very close to him, but, little by little, you will leave him alone with the teachers or the animators. This will help him secure himself since, every time, you will be there when he leaves.
