2023 Author: Anita Thornton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-05-22 03:30
The party at his best friend's is this Friday. He wants to party at your house while you are on a business trip. The ball is coming… Do you trust him? Are you worried?
Sooner or later and whether you like it or not, your teen will want to go out with their friends, go to parties that you find dodgy and they will be invited to darker and darker school parties, more and more late. Your little child will grow up, it's a necessary passage to adulthood.
Trust
The stages of the development of young children are well defined in the literature and it is easy to predict the pitfalls and progress of the little ones and to spread them over well-defined periods. On the other hand, there are very few precise guides to adolescence and like adults, adolescents are very different from each other even if their behavior can reveal certain things.
Is your child lying? Does he tend to cause problems at school? Does he tell you what he is going through? All of these behaviors change your impression of him, your concerns, and the permissions you will give him.
If your teenager talks to you a lot, if he is not in fullrebellion and if you consider him to have good judgment, there is probably no risk of slippage.
Friends
We don't always like our children's friends. If you find that she always speaks too loudly? That he is clumsy and breaks everything in the house? That she wears the veil at 14? That he's always hungry and robs your refrigerator? These are not reasons that should worry you in themselves because everyone has their family, their beliefs, their habits and their clumsiness and we must not forget that teenagers were still children not so long ago.
On the other hand, if you suspect his friends of stealing, driving too fast and badly, lying, taking drugs and if they come into your house rudely looking at the floor rather than saying hello, you are perfectly en titled to ask you how they will spend their prom night.
Risks
Drug
As in your time, drugs are offered to young people and they must be made aware of the risks involved. You're no less interesting as a parent if you gently explain that crystal meth will eventually cause them to lose their teeth, that ecstasy eats away the fat that fuels the brain and dehydrates, and that cocaine is extremely addictive, causes problems weight management and gives a long-term emaciated face. Teenagers are usually willing to listen to you if you provide them with valid and relevant information.
Sex
Sexuality is still what it used to be and despite the ubiquity of sexual content in the media, the statistics related to teen sexual practices haven't changed much over the past 20 years. Good communication with your teen is essential. You can also provide condoms if your teen seems smart and you are concerned about unprotected contact.
Alcohol
Although excesses are always possible for some, teenagers having a beer in your basement are not at great risk. The problems arise afterwards, when teenagers get behind the wheel, when they have drinked too much and when they engage in dangerous activities because their perception of danger is altered. If alcohol must be consumed reasonably by parents responsible for the safety of a child, this is even more true for teenagers who are still very young. Moderation in all things is not just a slogan.
Car
A kid going to party shouldn't drive. Point. On the other hand, he should be able to call you when he wants to come back if he is too young or if he does not have access to the metro, the bus or if he is too far to return by bike. Drunk driving, speeding to impress friends and the fact that they are still new to driving do not mix well and cause fatal accidents almost every day.
Stuff
The oldest trick in the world is to invite everyone toyou. They're loud, yes, but when they need something, you won't be too far away. These evenings allow young people to quietly get used to partying and, thus, they will not end up standing between two garbage cans, drinking in a shopping center parking lot.
Remember that for them, these evenings will be memorable and they are really looking forward to going. Know how to take your children's common sense into account so that, armed with your good advice, they can finally feel free and grown up and have fun with those they love and only see between walls of their school. They'll be more open to your valuable advice if you don't play the killjoy card too rigidly.
