2023 Author: Anita Thornton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-05-22 03:30
A month at dad's, a month at mom's, all summer at one or the other or do we continue as usual? Where will the children go for the holidays?
Maybe you've been separated for years or, on the contrary, maybe you're moping about how you'll share the children during this first long summer vacation? Some are spoiled for choice, while others have very little play. There are almost as many possibilities as there are families. Let's take a look at all the options available to parents coping with a separation.
The good deal
In the beginning, as with everything concerning the children of parents who are going through a separation, good communication and a lot of good will are essential. Summer holidays are part of the imagination of children who dream of winter and who will remember it as adults.
Start by asking your kids what they want to do, it's their vacation after all. Maybe they will give you some food for thought and even if you don't have the time or the means to send them everywhere they want to go, they will surely ask you to do activities such as going to the beach or doing from the campsite and you candistribute the weeks accordingly. By planning well, you and your ex-spouse can probably negotiate your vacation weeks far enough in advance that they don't overlap.
Some parents separate and no longer live in the same city or even on the same continent. In such a case, it is obvious that parents must plan more carefully and use common sense. Will you accept that your child spends a month in France or in Gaspésie? It would be wise to ask the father of your children if he already has a plan so as not to impose your choices on him and because he may have already thought of options available in his area.
Some also live in an environment more conducive to enjoying the holidays. For example, if one of the parents lives in the countryside, near a river where there are sailing lessons and several children of the same age, it is quite obvious that the child will want to go there more than staying in downtown Montreal. Don't take this the wrong way, it's good for a child to spend as much time as possible outside, Quebec is cold for so long…
In more mundane cases, the parents will take two weeks each, take care of the children during these well-deserved periods of respite and send the children to day camps for the remaining weeks. Moreover, it is a good idea to choose the camps and to reserve their places early enough if you want your child to have access to the mostinteresting. Most camps are already taking registrations. We have summer camp section for you to check out.
In short, let's make summer belong to children, let them have fun and enjoy the sun without hearing about the logistics of parents. For your part, be sure to plan ahead so that your vacation is a real moment of relaxation and not a period of last-minute headaches and organization.